Embracing Konmari at Home Made Me a Better Person

March 25, 2019

Embracing Konmari at Home

I've always wanted to have a clutter-free home. Moving to a new home seven years ago was the first step for me. We only rented a small truck to transfer to the new house what's left from our belongings. I remember giving away 3 boxes of books was the most difficult thing for me. 

When Netflix released the reality series Tidying Up with Marie Kondo, it was an instant hit and everybody was posting about things that spark joy. Until now, I haven't seen a single episode. I've been telling myself, "What's there to know? I've been tidying up all my life!"

But, am I doing it right?

Embracing Konmari at Home

When I was invited to attend the "Applying Konmari and Montessori at Home Workshop", I felt like the universe was telling me to stop resisting the urge to know what Konmari is all about.  The main speaker, Miss Renelyn Tan-Castillejos, is a Konmari-Consultant-in-Training and owner of the World of Yorokobi. 

Project Konmari

I was super excited to go home and start my "Project Konmari". The closet and my home office are the top two that need special attention.

Embracing Konmari at Home

My closet is filled with clothes I haven't worn in 10 years. I've been holding on to them because I was hopeful that one day they will fit me or make me feel good when I wear them. Some of the clothes I am sure I will NEVER wear again but I've got emotional attachment so they stayed occupying precious space.

How many cabinets, drawers and rooms in your house are filled with things that don't spark joy anymore?

Miss Renelyn shared 6 basic rules of tidying.
  1. Commit yourself to tidying up.
  2. Imagine your ideal lifestyle.
  3. Finish discarding first.
  4. Tidy by category, not by location.
  5. Follow the right order.
  6. Ask yourself if it sparks joy.

Embracing Konmari at Home

It's difficult to determine what sparks joy. It will make you have a deeper understanding of yourself especially when you start tidying your sentimental items. Miss Renelyn suggested that you should not force yourself to discard sentimental items.

How to determine what sparks joy

  • Put all your belongings in one pile and arrange according to category
  • Touch the item and put it close to your heart
  • Compare your belongings with the other items in the same category and choose the top three that sparks joy
  • No matter how cluttered it looks, you should not stop and quit.

What I've learned

Embracing Konmari at Home

I've been holding on to things that don't have purpose in my life. 

I have no right to complain of not having enough closet space. I have more than enough but they are filled with non-essentials. I want to have a minimalist lifestyle but it seems like I'm accumulating stuff I don't need and the clutter is piling up faster than I am getting rid of them.

While I was sorting the pile of clothes, I paused and reflected. Is my heart filled with negative emotions I've been carrying for years just because I can't forgive the people who hurt me? Or worse, because I can't forgive myself? Am I surrounded with people who no longer spark joy when I'm with them but I keep them anyway because I still believe they will change for the better? 

I'm still a work-in-progress in tidying up my space and my heart. But there's no stopping me to achieving the lifestyle I imagine and the best version of myself.

To learn more about Konmari and Montessori at Home, follow Renelyn Tan-Castillejos (@worldofyorokobi) & Karen Pacia (@theprojectmommyger) on Instagram